My to do list and resolutions January 1, 2020 looked a little something like this:
- Hit the gym!
- Start a plant based diet
- Call real estate clients
- Take the dog on a walk
- Go for a 30 minute walk after dinner
- Clean the house
- Do laundry
- Start a new book
- Only watch 1 TV show episode
- Drink a gallon of water
- Write 5 blog posts
What a badass lady, am I right?! Crushing the resolutions on Day 1.
Let’s take a look at my checklist by 9pm:
- Take the dog on a walk
So there I was, one day in to the new year (new me!), and I did basically 0% of what I set out to do. Failed on the first fucking day!
Game over. You lose. Clock out. Try again next year!
Wrong. Did I fail? Yes, I did. Did I gain some perspective? Absolutely. While I failed on over half of my resolutions on the first day of the new year I took a moment to reflect on what I want. I mean, what I REALLY want. Not the person I think I should be or the things I SHOULD be doing.
How I set resolutions that matter
It took less than 24 hours for me to scrap my 2020 resolutions. I trashed them because my resolutions were not enough for me to be motivated or even disciplined to maintain consistency. What was my WHY behind these resolutions? When I reflected on my reason behind each one I was left with only 3 out of the 8 original resolutions.
What was my WHY behind these resolutions?
I asked myself some questions. Am I making a resolution simply because it is a new year and that is what is expected? Do I want to eat a plant based diet because that’s the new fad or because it makes my body feel good? Is setting a workout resolution something I want to maintain long-term for my health or am I only trying to achieve a physical appearance goal for my upcoming wedding? And maybe, most importantly, are these habits that I actually WANT or NEED to change? Do I really want a “new year, new me”?
After having a serious heart to heart with myself, I set my 3 resolutions. You can also read about another Womanalia writer’s resolution here. Each resolution had a why to keep me going. My WHY is to work towards financial stability (student loans I am looking at you!), achieve consistent balance for my health (mental, physical, and social), and support my current and future family. Each of my resolutions falls into one or more of my why’s, my reasons for why I do anything. When, and I say when, not if, I fall behind on my resolutions, all I need to do is remind myself why I’m doing this and what I earn from my consistency.
So, my challenge to you is to have that conversation with yourself. Ask yourself why you set those resolutions and whether you can commit to them. Because if you find yourself, 2 months from now, remembering that sad, crumpled paper with your resolutions and waiting until next January 1 to make more, then you need to figure out your WHY and your goals will fall into place.
…figure out your WHY and your goals will fall into place.Tweet